This is my plea to all. I want to tell you my story. These are my 2 Sons, Chris (with his 2 beautiful children), my Grandchildren, left with no Daddy. Also, Mark, his Brother. Both passed over too young. Mark was 34yrs old, Chris was only 28. They died within 8 months of each other. Chris, was ill for a long time and Doctors couldn't find the reason he was having stomach problems, and passed it off, until eventually, he was sent to the Hospital for the camera down the throat, this was in early 2007. They told him he had ulcers. Bad ulcers. Was given medication for this which never helped. I had to go with him back to his GP again, to support him, as he was getting worse and no one would listen. He had lost his Dad not too long before to Cancer, my Husband, in 2004. The Doctor sat in front of us and told Chris, ''look at the computer...you have NOTHING wrong! You are thinking because your Dad had Cancer, you might too!'' He burst into tears when she also added ''You want me to ring the crisis team in Psychiatric for you?'' I will not tell you what I wanted to say or do, as I knew he was really not right. Eventually, I got him admitted to Hospital, he was diagnosed after tests and very fast Surgery, with Terminal Stomach Cancer, which had spread. He left a wife age 24 and a Son age 7yrs , a Daughter aged 4yrs, heartbroken family too, 6 months later. His Brother, Mark, was diagnosed in 2005 with Kidney Failure, which he suffered for nearly 3 years. He came home to live with me and he passed away suddenly 8 months after Chris in the August, as Chris went in the December, a few days before Christmas Day. Now...this is what happened too...I was also diagnosed with Cancer, the same time Chris was diagnosed with his. Luckily, after Major Surgery, I survived. To help to take care of Chris, Mark too. Thank God, but, there was nothing to help me or Chris's wife with the Funerals! I had the most understanding Funeral Director ever...who I was paying weekly for my Husband, who had died in 2004, as he had been so ill for a few years before, we were on benefits and I was his carer. Obviously I was still grieving for him, as well as 2 Sons too also a Sister who passed in 2006 as well. There were now 2 Funeral bills I had to pay for, my Husbands and Marks. We also had the added pressure of Chris's too, his wife got the bill, which was sent to her, as his wife. She chose a different Funeral Directors to me, a new one that had opened, who offered much more than others, so, Chris loved Liverpool Football Team and his wife thought this would be great to have as her last gift to him. They were very happy to talk her into it too! I had no insurance, neither did she ( life insurance) for any of our loved ones. You get a discretionary payment towards a Funeral of part of the payment, which is sent direct to the Funeral Director....but...you have to find the rest and make an arrangement with them to pay off the rest. This was done and I had no problem with mine, but, my Son Chris's wife had to have her benefits changed to a widows payment, so, they stopped all her benefits to re arrange it, leaving her with only enough to keep her children fed. 6 weeks after Chris died, she had a court order dropped through the letter box. This frightened her to death! She had never experienced this before! The company would not give any leeway to her to pay, so, she got a CCJ next to her name! I was paying my funeral bills for 8 years! Every week without fail! I was allowed to take it in, to the company I used. She is still paying hers, as she is still a single working parent on a low wage. So, no headstone is allowed for her Husband/my Sons grave. This is the thing...THIS is why I am trying to raise money!!!! To help OTHERS! This is happening to people now! The cost of funerals has rocketed and will continue to as well! There are NO places to help poorer people with the shortfall of the remainders of their loved ones bills! Only recently, I heard of a very good friend of mine from the past, whos daughter had to put her Mother in a paupers grave! This IS going to happen to many again too! So, I want to try to set up this to help the pain others suffer, like we did, when you do not need it as a big financial strain when you are newly bereaved. So, please....if YOU have a heart, please try to help me here? All I want to do is make sure others DONT suffer like we have!
I am hoping all see this, I am posting it on facebook too, here is the link to the 'gofundme' page....all money raised in time if it happens will be put into a trust account, to be there to help pay shortfalls for others. Thank you for reading this.
http://www.gofundme.com/p159r8
https://www.facebook.com/
Chris and Marks Benevolence Fund http://www.gofundme.com/p159r8?pc=14_tw_1 via @gofundme
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